segunda-feira, 14 de setembro de 2015

Sinais podem indicar que colegas odeiam você


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  • While some coworkers may have no qualms about letting you know they despise you, others will try to remain diplomatic and professional, and will hide those hard feelings.<p>"Most coworkers won't overtly show their disdain for you so as not to cause trouble or jeopardize their own careers," says Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tame-Your-Terrible-Office-Tyrant/dp/0470457643/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1248186483&sr=8-1&tag=bisafetynet-20">Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job</a>." "They may make life difficult for you, but they'll probably try to stay under the radar. Still, there are subtle red flags that they're not out for your best interests."</p><p>You'll want to know those signs, says Taylor, so you can spot them when they're present and turn things around before it's too late.</p><p>"Of course, it's impossible to be liked by everyone in the office," she explains. But you should always strive to be sensitive to the needs of your fellow coworker; remain upbeat and friendly; communicate openly; and give colleagues the benefit of the doubt. "Those who do this have a far brighter career future," she says. "Plus, when have strong, healthy workplace relationships, you will be more effective and accomplished in your job."</p><p>Michael Kerr, an international business speaker and author of "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Humor-Advantage-Businesses-Laughing/dp/0968846122?tag=bisafetynet-20">The Humor Advantage</a>," agrees. "When your coworkers like you, everything becomes easier," he says. "People have your back when you need it the most, you can ask for and get favors more easily, people will volunteer to help in times of need, and you can get far better cooperation even across departments." Being well liked will boost your morale which in turn will make you more productive, focused, creative, and successful in everything you do, he says.</p><p>Here are 17 subtle signs your coworkers secretly hate you. Keep in mind that you may just be misreading their body language or tone — the workplace is certainly not immune to human misunderstanding and no one is a mind reader. But if you notice you're the only victim of these behaviors, it probably means they don't like you.</p>Your gut tells you they don't like you.Shutterstock<p><p>If you feel like your coworkers don't like you, it could just be in your head. But it can also be true. If they treat you very differently than everyone else, you're probably not their favorite person. Trust your gut and continue looking for other signs if you have a strong feeling about this.</p></p>They don't smile when you're around.Kyknoord/flickr<p><p>We're not talking about the occasional bad day or mood swing. If your coworkers make a conscious effort not to smile when you're in the room, something isn't right. </p></p>They can't maintain eye contact with you.Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design/flickr<p><p>It's difficult to look someone straight in the eye when you don't like or respect them, says Taylor. If you notice your colleagues avoid eye contact while speaking with you, those are probably the reasons.</p><p>"They're afraid that you may be able to detect hostility, so the path of least resistance is for them to look away or avoid being around you wherever possible," Taylor suggests.</p></p>They avoid you.Emilio Labrador/flickr<p><p>If you notice that your coworkers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait until you return from the break room before they head in, those are good signs they're avoiding you.</p> </p>They feed the rumor mill.Flickr/Stevesnodgrass<p><p>This is childish and unprofessional behavior, but it happens in workplaces all the time: Someone doesn't like you, so they spread rumors.</p></p>They don’t acknowledge your presence.Bob Barr/Flickr<p><p>If your colleagues don't say "Good morning" when you arrive, or, "Have a great night" on their way out, they may be telling you they don't like you, says Taylor.</p></p>They're short with you.University of Exeter/flickr<p><p>If you ask, "How's it going?" and they always respond with "Ok" or "Fine" — or if their emails to always get straight to the point, and never begin with a friendly "Hello" or "Good afternoon," this may be a sign they're not a huge fan of you.</p><p>"If they sound like a moody teenagers, then that's a pretty big red flag," says Kerr. </p></p>They give off negative body language.Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design/flickr<p><p>Whether it's a subtle eye roll, constantly assuming a closed off position with arms folded across their chest, or they don't look up from their computer screen when you enter their office, your coworkers' body language will often reveal their true feelings towards you, Kerr says. </p> </p>They never invite you to social events.Strelka Institute for Media, Architecture and Design/flickr<p><p>If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your coworkers may be trying to send you a message. </p></p>They communicate with you primarily via email, even though you sit close by.Flickr / Tech Hub<p><p>If your coworkers don't like you, they'll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you. If you notice a shift toward more digital correspondence, that's a sign. </p> </p>They constantly disagree with you.University of Exeter/flickr<p><p>Continuously gunning down your ideas is a sign they don't like you. "If it feels like someone shoots down every thought before you’ve even finished a sentence, then it’s often because their dislike is so strong that they are biased against anything you suggest, even when it's a great idea," says Kerr.</p></p>They never ask about your personal life.VFS Digital Design/Flickr<p><p>If you notice that your colleagues speak with each other about their kids or hobbies, but never brings up these topics with you, they're probably just not interested in hearing about your life, says Kerr.</p></p>The don't ever include you in their office bantering or humor.Reuters<p><p>"Joking around is a key way that relationships become cemented in any workplace, and not inviting you into the inner circle of bantering is a sign your coworkers may not feel comfortable around you enough to think of you as one of 'the team,'" says Kerr.</p> </p>They steal credit for your ideas.Texas A&M University-Commerce Marketing Communications Photography/Flickr<p><p>These coworkers could just be "glory hogs," says Taylor. But if they go out of their way to steal the limelight from you and only you, they may be trying to drive you out.</p></p>They assume unauthorized power.Sebastiaan ter Burg/Flickr<p><p>Sometimes coworkers who want to muscle in on your position will play boss even when they have no authority, says Taylor. </p> </p>They create cliques that are reminiscent of high school.The Internet Movie Database<p><p>If you feel like you're in a scene from the movie "Mean Girls," and you're not invited to hang out or sit with any of the office cliques, your colleagues probably don't like you very much. </p> </p>There's a fundamental lack of trust.Sebastiaan ter Burg/flickr<p><p>If you're questioned excessively about your motives or your coworkers only dole out information on a need-to-know basis, they may be trying to sabotage your career, says Taylor. </p></p> 
     
    Muitos colegas de trabalho não têm meias palavras para dizer o quanto lhe odeiam.
     Outros vão tentar se manter diplomáticos e profissionais enquanto secretamente 
    querem que você desapareça ou morra."A maioria dos colegas de trabalho não
     mostra abertamente seus sentimentos de desdém para não tumultuar ou ameaçar 
    suas próprias carreiras", diz a especialista em ambiente de trabalho Lynn Taylor. 
    "Eles vão prejudicar sua vida, mas ao mesmo tempo se manter fora do radar. Ainda
     assim, deixam alguns sinais vermelhos de que não estão dispostos a atender a seus
     interesses".Você definitivamente precisa se manter atento a estes sinais, diz Taylor,
     de forma a poder reverter situações desfavoráveis antes que seja tarde demais.
    "Claro que é impossível ser querido por todos no trabalho", ela explica. Mas você
     deve sempre tentar ser sensível às necessidades dos colegas, ser amigável e positivo,
     comunicar-se abertamente e dar aos seus colegas o benefício da dúvida. "Aqueles 
    que conseguem fazer isso terão uma carreira brilhante", ela diz. "Com boas amizades
     no ambiente de trabalho você será mais capaz de realizar bem o seu trabalho."
    Michael Kerr, que dá palestras sobre ambiente de trabalho e negócio, concorda:
     "Quando seus colegas de trabalho gostam de você tudo fica melhor", ela diz. "As
     pessoas lhe defendem quando você mais precisa, você pode pedir e conceder
     favores com mais facilidade, você pode ser voluntário para ajudar e conseguir uma
     cooperação bem melhor até em outros departamentos". Ser bem quisto vai melhorar
     a sua moral, o que por sua vez vai torná-lo mais produtivo, concentrado, criativo e
     bem-sucedido em tudo o que faz, ele diz. A seguir reunimos 17 sinais que devem
     servir de alerta de que seus colegas não lhe querem bem secretamente
  • <p>If you feel like your coworkers don't like you, it could just be in your head. But it can also be true. If they treat you very differently than everyone else, you're probably not their favorite person. Trust your gut and continue looking for other signs if you have a strong feeling about this.</p> 

    Seu pressentimento diz que eles não gostam de você

    Se você tem a sensação de que seus colegas não gostam de você, pode ser tudo
     da sua cabeça. Mas também pode ser verdade. Se eles tratam você com muita
    diferença em relação aos outros, você pode não ser a pessoa de quem eles mais
     gostam. Confie nos seus pressentimentos e fique atento aos outros sinais
     
  • <p>We're not talking about the occasional bad day or mood swing. If your coworkers make a conscious effort not to smile when you're in the room, something isn't right. </p> 
     

    Eles não sorriem quando você está perto

    Não estamos falando daquele dia ruim em que estão todos de muito
     mau humor. Se parece que seus colegas fazem um esforço consciente
     para não sorrir quando você está no ambiente, tem algo errado
  • <p>It's difficult to look someone straight in the eye when you don't like or respect them, says Taylor. If you notice your colleagues avoid eye contact while speaking with you, those are probably the reasons.</p><p>"They're afraid that you may be able to detect hostility, so the path of least resistance is for them to look away or avoid being around you wherever possible," Taylor suggests.</p>
  • <p>If you notice that your coworkers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait until you return from the break room before they head in, those are good signs they're avoiding you.</p>
  • <p>This is childish and unprofessional behavior, but it happens in workplaces all the time: Someone doesn't like you, so they spread rumors.</p>
  • <p>If your colleagues don't say "Good morning" when you arrive, or, "Have a great night" on their way out, they may be telling you they don't like you, says Taylor.</p>
  • <p>If you ask, "How's it going?" and they always respond with "Ok" or "Fine" — or if their emails to always get straight to the point, and never begin with a friendly "Hello" or "Good afternoon," this may be a sign they're not a huge fan of you.</p><p>"If they sound like a moody teenagers, then that's a pretty big red flag," says Kerr. </p>
  • <p>Whether it's a subtle eye roll, constantly assuming a closed off position with arms folded across their chest, or they don't look up from their computer screen when you enter their office, your coworkers' body language will often reveal their true feelings towards you, Kerr says. </p>
  • <p>If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your coworkers may be trying to send you a message. </p>
  • <p>If your coworkers don't like you, they'll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you. If you notice a shift toward more digital correspondence, that's a sign. </p>
  • <p>Continuously gunning down your ideas is a sign they don't like you. "If it feels like someone shoots down every thought before you’ve even finished a sentence, then it’s often because their dislike is so strong that they are biased against anything you suggest, even when it's a great idea," says Kerr.</p>
  • <p>If you notice that your colleagues speak with each other about their kids or hobbies, but never brings up these topics with you, they're probably just not interested in hearing about your life, says Kerr.</p>
  • <p>"Joking around is a key way that relationships become cemented in any workplace, and not inviting you into the inner circle of bantering is a sign your coworkers may not feel comfortable around you enough to think of you as one of 'the team,'" says Kerr.</p>
  • <p>These coworkers could just be "glory hogs," says Taylor. But if they go out of their way to steal the limelight from you and only you, they may be trying to drive you out.</p>
  • <p>Sometimes coworkers who want to muscle in on your position will play boss even when they have no authority, says Taylor. </p>
  • <p>If you feel like you're in a scene from the movie "Mean Girls," and you're not invited to hang out or sit with any of the office cliques, your colleagues probably don't like you very much. </p>
  • <p>If you're questioned excessively about your motives or your coworkers only dole out information on a need-to-know basis, they may be trying to sabotage your career, says Taylor. </p>

    Eles não olham você nos olhos

    É difícil olhar a pessoa nos olhos se você não gosta dela ou não a respeita,
     diz Taylor. Se você nota que seus colegas não conseguem olhar você no olho,
     este pode ser o motivo. "Eles têm medo de que você consiga perceber a
     hostilidade, então o caminho menos difícil é olhar em outra direção ou evitar
     sua presença sempre que possível", sugere Taylor
     <p>If you notice that your coworkers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait until you return from the break room before they head in, those are good signs they're avoiding you.</p>


    Eles evitam sua presença

    Se você nota que seus colegas pegam as escadas quando você
     espera o elevador ou esperam para entrar na Copa quando você
     está nela, estes são bons sinais de que estão lhe evitando.

    <p>This is childish and unprofessional behavior, but it happens in workplaces all the time: Someone doesn't like you, so they spread rumors.</p>

    Eles fazem fofoca contra você

    Isto é infantil e péssimo para qualquer ambiente, mas acontece
    o tempo todo: um colega não gosta do outro, então espalha fofocas
     a respeito dele para prejudicá-lo.

     <p>If your colleagues don't say "Good morning" when you arrive, or, "Have a great night" on their way out, they may be telling you they don't like you, says Taylor.</p>


    Eles ignoram sua presença

    Se os seus colegas não respondem ao seu "bom dia" ou dão boa noite
     quando você vai embora, eles podem estar dizendo que não gostam de
    você, diz Taylor.


     <p>If you ask, "How's it going?" and they always respond with "Ok" or "Fine" — or if their emails to always get straight to the point, and never begin with a friendly "Hello" or "Good afternoon," this may be a sign they're not a huge fan of you.</p><p>"If they sound like a moody teenagers, then that's a pretty big red flag," says Kerr. </p>

    Eles são curtos e grossos

    Se você diz "como está" e eles sempre respondem com um curto
     e grosso "Ok" ou "Bem" — ou seus e-mails são sempre muito diretos,
     eles nunca conversam começando com um simpático "olá" ou "Boa tarde",
     isso pode ser um sinal de que eles não são seus fãs.
    "Se eles parecem adolescentes emburrados falando com você, isso é um
    mau sinal", diz Kerr.

    <p>Whether it's a subtle eye roll, constantly assuming a closed off position with arms folded across their chest, or they don't look up from their computer screen when you enter their office, your coworkers' body language will often reveal their true feelings towards you, Kerr says. </p>

    Sua linguagem corporal é negativa

    Se eles reviram os olhos de maneira sutil ou constantemente
    assumem uma posição de braços fechados ou então não
     levantam os olhos do computador quando você entra no
    recinto de trabalho, isto é um indício forte de que eles não
     têm bons sentimentos por você.

    <p>If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your coworkers may be trying to send you a message. </p>


    Eles nunca convidam você para encontros

    Eles nunca convidam você para almoçar, para a happy hour ou para
     reuniões de projeto eles podem estar querendo transmitir uma mensagem
     <p>If your coworkers don't like you, they'll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you. If you notice a shift toward more digital correspondence, that's a sign. </p>

    Eles se comunicam com você por e-mail

    Se seus colegas não gostam de você eles vão limitar a comunicação
     pessoal, comunicando-se primariamente por e-mail e mensagens eletrônicas 
     
     

 <p>Continuously gunning down your ideas is a sign they don't like you. "If it feels like someone shoots down every thought before you’ve even finished a sentence, then it’s often because their dislike is so strong that they are biased against anything you suggest, even when it's a great idea," says Kerr.</p>

 

Eles discordam de você

Se eles rebatem constantemente suas ideias é um sinal de que não gostam de você. "Se você tem a sensação de que as pessoas precisam sempre dar o contra para tudo o que você fala antes mesmo que você tenha concluído uma frase, isto pode indicar que eles têm um preconceito tão grande contra você que não querem ouvir, mesmo quando é uma boa ideia", diz Kerr.


<p>If you notice that your colleagues speak with each other about their kids or hobbies, but never brings up these topics with you, they're probably just not interested in hearing about your life, says Kerr.</p>


Eles nunca perguntam de sua vida pessoal

Se você percebe que seus colegas conversam entre si sobre suas famílias e passatempos, mas nunca este tipo de conversa inclui você, eles provavelmente não se interessam pela sua vida pessoal e nem por você, diz Kerr.

<p>"Joking around is a key way that relationships become cemented in any workplace, and not inviting you into the inner circle of bantering is a sign your coworkers may not feel comfortable around you enough to think of you as one of 'the team,'" says Kerr.</p>

Eles não incluem você nas brincadeiras de escritório

"As brincadeiras são formas muito importantes de sedimentar as relações dos colegas no escritório. Não incluí-lo nelas é um sinal de que seus colegas não se sentem à vontade com você e não o consideram um "integrante do time", diz Kerr.



 <p>These coworkers could just be "glory hogs," says Taylor. But if they go out of their way to steal the limelight from you and only you, they may be trying to drive you out.</p>

Eles roubam suas ideias

Se os seus colegas de trabalho são sangue-sugas de crédito, e isso acontece só com você, isso é um grave indício de que as coisas não vão bem.


 <p>Sometimes coworkers who want to muscle in on your position will play boss even when they have no authority, says Taylor. </p>

Eles assumem poderes que não têm

Quando alguns colegas de trabalho não gostam dos outros assumem posições de superioridade sobre eles que não têm, mandando neles quando não podem, diz Taylor.


 <p>If you feel like you're in a scene from the movie "Mean Girls," and you're not invited to hang out or sit with any of the office cliques, your colleagues probably don't like you very much. </p>

Colegas que criam panelinhas

Se você se sente como no colégio, quando não era convidado para se sentar junto dos colegas que criaram uma "panelinha", isto pode ser um indício de que não gostam de você.


 <p>If you're questioned excessively about your motives or your coworkers only dole out information on a need-to-know basis, they may be trying to sabotage your career, says Taylor. </p>

Há uma perda de confiança fundamental

Se você é questionado constantemente sobre suas motivações ou seus colegas só querem saber o estritamente necessário de você, eles podem estar tentando sabotar sua carreira, diz Taylor



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